The ability to provide credit feedback
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The ability to provide feedback within the context of partnership is an important aspect of your Partnering Intelligence. If you can’t provide feedback, resentment begins to fester. As in conflict, a partner’s resentment develops into passive-aggressive behavior that can quickly turn destructive.
The best model I’ve seen for giving feedback has five basic steps:
1. You note a person’s behavior.
2. The behavior creates an impression on you—maybe good, maybe bad, but powerful enough for you to take notice.
3. Time passes. You evaluate what you want to do about the impact of the behavior. If it’s urgent, you may react immediately: “That was a great comment you made.” Or, “Please stop interrupting me.” Depending on the situation, you may want to give the feedback in a private setting. In general, though, I recommend giving it as soon as possible after the behavior.
4. Give your feedback to the other person. Describe the behavior and tell the person the impact it had.
5. Decide what to do with the person’s reaction. Remember, the feedback is yours. It’s your impression that you’re giving to the receiver. It’s up to the receiver to decide what he or she wants to do with the information.